Mending Your Relationship Without Losing Your Friends

 You just want this thought "I want my ex back" to stop. You're leaning heavy on your friends these days and they are starting to groan a little under the load. Want to learn how to get back together without driving your friends crazy?

One thing is for sure - it isn't good for you to keep dwelling on your ex and the breakup while being a downer for your friends at the same time. No one wants to be around someone who is sad and emotional all the time. Especially when it is possible to get help from experienced relationship experts, whether they are self taught or professionally trained with a degree behind their name.

You don't have to hire a psychiatrist (luckily) to obtain trusted advice on the subject of getting back together. It's expensive to hire these people, and fortunately there are many people online who have in-depth experience and wisdom when it comes to patching things up with your ex.

Chances are, your friends are not experts in the subject of relationship rebuilding and reunification. Yes, some of them may have suffered through a breakup but that does not necessarily make them qualified to be your guidance counselor during this painful time, and the advice they give you could actually do more harm than good.

And if you try to go it alone, figuring out the next steps to take, you may end up in a fight that isn't something the two of you can bounce back from. You don't want to ruin your chances of reconciliation with your ex.

Sometimes, even the most trusted and experienced advice won't work when it comes to getting your ex back. There are always impossible situations but many times, what you do immediately after a breakup can mean the difference between getting back together and going your separate ways.

You should know, through your own intuition, not to do something impulsive that could ruin your chances with your ex. Be sure to take your time and think about the consequences of any actions that you take right now, because it's hard to take back words, once they've been spoken, and deeds, once they've been done.

Why You Need To Have a Clear Mind During a Breakup

Having a clear mind and having your emotions under control is one of the most important things you can do for yourself right now. When you are in control, you aren't reacting to situations as they arise.

If you're constantly reacting to situations instead of taking the time to respond with some forethought - you're off balance and there's no telling what you might end up doing. It goes without saying - if you just can't get a handle on your emotions...if you are in tears and aching inside because you miss your ex so much, the worst thing you can do is pursue your ex right now. You don't want to ruin your chances of making up, and you also don't want to drive your friends crazy either.

How can you know if it's too late for your relationship? If you can stop dwelling on the thought "I want my ex back" long enough and keep your mind clear, it will be easier to pick up on the subtle clues that your ex might be sending you.

The best advice is to avoid acting on well meaning advice from your friends. It goes without saying that true friends have your best interests at heart but you should be aware that if you take their advice, it might not be right for you right now, and you don't want to lose them because you followed their bad advice.

What we've found to be true is to not lean too heavily on your friends or involve them too deeply when it comes to the mending of a relationship. They'll thank you for it later. It's not usually a good idea to follow the advice of friends. Be sure to turn to people who know the ins and outs of getting couples back together again, who have helped others in the past and whose purpose is to help people get back with an ex.